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How to Master Fear in Business from a Dating Coach

“Fear is an emotion associated with anticipated pain. Former Art Of Charm coach Sameem Rouhani calls it “the discomfort of uncertainty.” It’s useful because we survived as a species by avoiding pain. But social fear in all its forms typically boils down to avoiding a particular type of pain—rejection. As early humans learned, being part of the group was advantageous for survival; being abandoned or rejected by the group meant hardship or death.

The reason the Harbingers’ work with social anxiety in dating maps well to business is because business is inherently social: You’re making things for people, selling things to people, and working with people to make all that happen. And rejection—whether from customers, supporters, partners, investors, colleagues, bosses, “the market,” you name it—almost always feels personal.”

Ways you can battle that fear

  1. Collect Data (of successes)
  2. Use the principle of progresssive overload (pushing yourself a little farther) in a safe environment
  3. Flip your internal script (Change a negative outlook to a positive one)

That’s what progressive overload is all about. “There’s always going to be a fear of failure in business,” AJ says. “You need to be comfortable being uncomfortable.”

Read more: HOW TO MASTER FEAR IN BUSINESS: TIPS FROM LA’S TOP DATING COACHES

 

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Your business is failing because you’re scared

‘I’m scared” the Zebra told the Owl in their weekly business consultation. “Well, fear is natural but don’t all it to affect you and your business. Remember, we worked together on a thorough business plan for 6 months and we continually study the industry so have done our homework now we just have to be patient and have faith that it will work out.

Lesson: This tip is from “18 Reasons Why Businesses Fail” by Nick Psaila. It was featured on Rescue a CEO. “Fear is eliminated through high levels of certainty. This is achieved through a combination of diligent research and faith. You need to tell yourself that rather than being a hostage to the outcome you can either: (1) Prosper from it or (2) Learn from it. There is nothing written in stone that will guarantee success.”

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